It doesn’t matter whether you win or lose it's how you play the game. I don’t know who came up with that one but they were right. As a teen, I competed in several music competitions. After one such event, I came home empty handed and upset. I was told my instrument keys were noisy, my notes were flat and my embouchure was weak. My friends had all been successful and went home with their blue and red medals. It was a long bus ride back home.